aggiebug that is hard. I've been there (with mostly IL's) where it's not my place to say and it's tough to have to just watch it and not fix it. I'm sorry for your friend. I was just thinking about my high school friends today and how/why we are not friends anymore. I think as kids we value different things and as we grow older (with responsibilities) we find that sometimes we aren't as similar or compatible as before. I am a firm believer that people come and go from our lives for a reason. Try not to beat yourself up over it if you drift apart.
I'm sorry S is giving you a hard time. Maybe it's summer time that causes these things. A has been very emotional all summer. I kept thinking she was getting sick but then never does. For us I'm sure it's a looser schedule and the kids constantly being together. I watched a YouTube video with some great summer ideas by brummymummyof2 youtu.be/NSDMUexR4OE
I think it's too late for me as we only have a few weeks left before getting back into the swing of things but next year maybe I will do some of these.
BTW, how are you doing with migraines and trying for a third?!
Hey, Cathy, I hope you are doing well. I am sure 3 years would have been really hard for you. I know it can get difficult. However, I think you're doing a good job by moving forward. It would have been better if you had mentioned the problem due to which you have been declared infertile. This would have helped me determine which option would be the best. IVF and surrogacy both have proven to highly successful for a lot of infertile couples. However, there doesn't exist a choice between both. For example, I was diagnosed with a poor ovarian reserve and low AMH levels. The doctors clearly told us that IVF had very low chances of success. So we were given an alternative that we should go with IVF with DE. Similar is the case with surrogacy. If you are producing healthy eggs then they would use those, however, if not then again DE would be recommended. My suggestion to you would be to visit a good fertility specialist and ask him/her for advice.
Thank you for this post. The clinic is indeed doing an amazing job. I was researching them. It is amazing how much variety they have when it comes to procedures. I was reading about their Mitochondria donation process. That really amazed me. In the process, the mitochondria from the DE is injected out. It is then inserted into the persons own egg. This gives it the energy needed for implantation. How amazing!? It is for all those females who are in their menopause stage. Or have a low amh but their uterus is working. I would recommend researching it. Good luck to all.
Hey, Swift, I hope you're doing well. A bit bias approach there. I know so many people for whom IVF has worked out really well. It all depends on your condition. Yes, the chances of success with surrogacy are very high but we cant say that IVF doesn't work out. It too has 60% chance of success. It all honestly, comes down to the doctor you visit. If the doctor has a high success rate then the chances of success would increase.
Lovely little thread. I want to contribute. I'm thankful for quite a few things. Apart from all the obvious blessings, there's more. I'm thankful for all the times when I could have given up, but I didn't. I somehow managed to keep going. If I hadn't I wouldn't be where I am today. I think you'll all agree with me, here. TTC can be so tough! It's incredibly important to keep going. At times, you feel like, you have no other option, but to give in. I'm thankful, that I did not! I'm thankful that I went for IVF. I'm thankful, that it all worked out! Life does not have to be so hard! Focusing on positives is really important.
Hey, congratulations to you! I am so happy that the process worked for you in the first go. I am sure it must have been so exciting! You finally fought through infertility. IVF is extremely unpredictable! Sometimes it works in the first cycle and sometimes it takes so long. It has a 60% chance of success for people which is pretty high as compared to IUI. I think things that are really important for the process include visiting a good clinic. It is really important to check the success rate of the clinic. The more experienced and professional the doctor the more chances of success. I think you can understand this more than anyone. The doctors who don't come under this criteria are basically just taking away your money. However, not only that but you need to realize that your body is delicate and sometimes the doctors are so unprofessional that while retrieving the egg they damage that area. Therefore, be careful everyone. I hope all those who are planning or are going through it have a successful process.
Infertility is a really hard journey to be on. I have had so many ups and downs! It has been like a roller coaster for me. However, it is amazing that people like you exist. It is extremely important to have someone to motivate you and to help you out on this journey. I am actually visiting this clinic. So far things are going amazing. I can't wait to finally become a mother.
One really good thing about them is that they try to maintain a good relationship with their patients and clients. They try to ensure that they are satisfied. My manager herself at times emails me to ask if I am okay with everything. Her emails make me so happy! It is like they understand that being labelled as infertile is not an easy thing for a couple to absorb. Therefore, they always keep my hopes high. The communication channel is the greatest! They are fast and at are convenience.
With preschool we have a whole month left but it still is flying by. I hope you have a good day today, not too much grandparent hangover .
S is in a phase lately, back to her super emotional self which is always fun. I don't mind the emotions most of the time but this is anger and it is requiring constant reminders of how to express emotions appropriately (no child hitting your brother or throwing things is not appropriate). It's exhausting.
I'm in a funk with a friend and it's hard. This has been my best friend since middle school but we are very different people now and I am having a hard time reconciling this. I own that a lot of it is on me, I am struggling not to judge her choices but I am losing with myself. It's making it hard to be happy for her or even talk with her. I just see these choices and where it is likely going to lead her and how it's impacting others including her mom, who has dealt with some serious shit (also probably plays into friends actions), and I hate it. I know it's her choice and all I can do is love her where she is at but that is hard for me at the moment. I am a protector and a fixer and I can't do either here.
Haha I am full of happiness and light today oops. Happy Monday friends
ILs left this morning. They were spunky AF today. It was a nice visit but it is nice to get back to normal today. Grocery shopping or something today. Maybe splash pad later. I want to use all the summer we have left. Only a few weeks ☹😭
PS our neighbor is having a new roof put on and G is driving me nuts. May need to get out of this house all day. Also, he is clear of his infection/crystals!!
Post by jennifer123 on Jul 21, 2019 5:30:53 GMT -5
Thank you for this post. You are right! It is very important to stand put! One shouldn't lose hope. I know so many people who because of their confidence and strength have been able to get through it. I believe one also has to be smart. It's really important to research. Visiting the right clinic is very important! The clinic should have a high success rate. They should be experienced and should know how to carry the process out. The doctors should also be knowledgeable. I hope everyone is able to fight through this battle. Good luck to all.
Post by jennifer123 on Jul 21, 2019 5:26:32 GMT -5
The doctors won't start checking you until you have tried for 12 months. A lot of my friends, therefore, tell the doctor that they have tried for 12 months. This way they get the most accurate answer. Therefore, you can try this as well. Also, just make sure to visit the right clinic. The clinic should be experienced! They should have a high success rate. This is something that really mattes. The doctor should also be professional. Lastly, have you observed something unusual? That you might think would be an issue? Telling this to the doctor might help. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.
Post by jennifer123 on Jul 21, 2019 5:22:55 GMT -5
Secondary infertility is not the easiest thing to go through. Therefore, I can understand how she might be feeling. Tell her to not lose hope! This is something that really matters. She needs to research the procedures. IVF usually works the best. However, I can't say anything. As I am not aware of what she has exactly been diagnosed for. There is a process called Mitochondria Donation. She can look into that as well. The clinic who is offering that is quite re-known for that. Good luck to her. Sending baby dust.
We have a bbq at a friend's house this afternoon. I'm hoping it isn't too hot up there. I have to make potato salad this morning but other than that no plans for the morning. V is playing with duplos and singing, A is climbing on a huge carboard box the neighbor brought over.
Hey, there! I know what it feels like. I went through something similar. It was a difficult time for me. I'm sorry that you have to experience this. I hope you find the strength to get past it. Good luck to you! Don't give up, please, you can still do it.
I'm really sorry to hear about your losses. It sounds like a really tough journey. However, it's good to see you hanging in there. You're quite brave if you've managed it so far. You should not give up. It could still happen! I want to wish you the best of luck on your journey. I hope you hear some amazing news, soon!
I'm so sorry, honey. It must have been quite hard. I can't believe you had to go through this. Sending you support and love. Please, keep the faith and keep trying. You can still do this. Good luck and lots of love!
Welcome to the forum, honey. Make yourself comfortable, okay? There's nothing to worry about. I can understand your situation. TTC is generally tough. Your age is quite fine, to be honest. You're doing everything right, honey. You only need a bit of luck. It's really important to stay in constant contact with your doctor. They are really helpful. It gives you an idea of what's right and wrong. So, best of luck to you, honey! You can get through this, I'm sure. Keep us posted on how the next cycle goes. I'd love to be of any kind of help. You can do this!
What a lovely story. I'm so happy for you, honey. This honestly made my day! Thank you for talking about this. It's so inspirational and motivating. It will give hopes to a lot of other women to go for it. Keep up the good work.
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You must be excited! Sending you lots of baby dust and good wishes. I had success on my third attempt. I hope you get to experience it sooner, though! A 60% success rate is very decent. I hope it ends with a sticky BFP! Can't wait to hear an update on this.
I know exactly how you feel. I've been through that situation. Most women can't understand or relate to that feeling. So, trust me, when I say this that I do! Just remember that you don't have to try until you're ready. So, take your time. It will all get better. Good luck to you!
Really sorry to listen about your troubles. You must have felt super bad about it. I want to send you the best of luck. I hope your luck turns around. You can make it through this. Don't give up and keep going! Sending you lots of baby dust.
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