With DD, I spiked high BP and had to be induced. But then my BP didn't go down. And my Ob told me that if it went "really high" (without telling me a number that defined "really high") I would have to be hospitalized. I freaked out. When I started googling "high BP after childbirth", I stumbled on a thread on TB. And then I saw there was a WM board and was intrigued. After a couple of weeks, I got the nerve to actually post. And I've hung around since.
I looked at BMBs on another major site while I was pregnant the first time. I don't remember which site. And I swear, all the posts were about how to apply for free breast pumps and work thru complex Medicaid problems. Since I was trying to decide whether it was worth it to spend $500 on a stroller, I... um... didn't fit in there.
I was living in Australia and had a conversation with exh, to whom I had been married a whopping six months, that someday we would have kids, and maybe we could stop preventing because all of my aunts and mom took several years. DD was conceived the first time in my life I had unprotected sex. Freaked out, in a foreign country, working on my PhD with a bunch of Aussie guys...led me to the internet.
I'm FB friends with those moms from 14 years ago and it is SO fun to see the kids grow.
I participated loosely with my first BMB on TB. I still talk to a couple ladies from there, but that's about it.
The day I came back from maternity leave with DD, my boss quit. I had two reasons for working there, and he was one of them. I found the WM board on TB and jumped right in hoping for advice, and was hooked ever since. WM got me through a shitty couple of years, convinced me to start looking and has kept me sane during the ride.
Post by traveltheworld on May 19, 2017 15:28:17 GMT -5
I started with TB when I was pregnant with DS and had to be on bed rest. But I never really posted much. Then I lurked on the Special Needs board for a very long time as I suspected that DS was on the ASD spectrum. I lurked enough on that board to know when the mass exodus happened, followed that board here, and found you group of lovely ladies and stayed. I still creepily stalk the Special Needs board because I like following up on how all the kids are doing, although it seems like a lot of the regulars stopped posting.
I started in a bmb on TD. When I was pregnant I was one of those people that Googled everything, read all the books etc. so of course I ended up on a forum. I moved over here with the mass but still rarely post. I am a creepy lurker. But I have been wanting to post a lot more.
When I was getting married, I read a lot of articles on TK website and eventually migrated over to the wedding boards (under a different screen name). I stopped posting there a few months after the wedding because I got bored of wedding talk.
When I was TTC, I initially started reading/posting on another site's message boards because I couldn't remember my TK/TB account and didn't want to have to wait for a new account to become active. But I was quickly turned off by all the baby dust and really dumb posters, so I came over to TB where it seemed a little more sane.
On TB, I was active on my BMB and Breastfeeding. I was mostly a lurker on WM. Then the big migration to TCF happened just after I returned to work after DS1. Initially I didn't really want to move anywhere, but after AmyG got banned I deleted my TB account and came over here.
This board has been a huge help as I returned to work after DS1 and has helped keep me sane. I consider this and my original BMB to be my main homes here.
Post by supertrooper1 on May 19, 2017 15:37:22 GMT -5
I started on the PgAL board on TB when I was pg with DS. I had 2 losses and was freaking out every day, worried I was going to lose him too. I found comfort knowing there were other women with losses like me. I migrated to the PAL board and then found the WM board. I was hesitant to follow the mass exodus then, but I feel like this is my home now.
I started lurking TB once when I thought I was pregnant but too scared to POAS (but I did NOT post asking if I was KU). When I was actually pregnant five years later, I returned there. I followed my BMB here, they al fled a few months later.
WP is really the first time I've posted more than lurked. I just love reading all of your wisdom and the group doesn't move so fast that I can't keep up or have nothing new to add. I also really appreciate that in a diverse crowd of values, we all get along. It takes maturity to do that.
In the more general sense, I like reading forums because I need the readsurance that a) most things I am experiencing are normal, b) if they aren't normal, there is likely someone here to offer helpful suggestions, & c) as WP's, it's hard to make real life friends who can relate (even though I have awesome coworkers).
Started with wedding planning on TK, then after the wedding went to the old TN BOTB board. This was 11 years ago. I got hooked because the snark then was good natured and fun, made a lot of friends, some of whom have become IRL friends. I have been involved with a number of boards over the years. IF a little bit, adoption, attachment parenting, cloth diapering, special needs, and working parents. I like my friends but I'm too old for board wars and netbattling at this point.
Before TK I was on forums for things like dogs, horses, etc.
Post by sandandsea on May 19, 2017 15:43:49 GMT -5
I started on the knot planning my wedding in 2001. I've been on and off the boards since - tk to tn the day it started and then naturally to tb when it was time to start a family in 2011. I have taken lots of breaks for years at a time and kept coming back when I had something to talk about. It's fun and I get tons of info and recs from everyone here who are in a more similar life stage than many of my friends. And it was refreshing to find awesome wms in amazing careers who were successful at home and work.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 19, 2017 15:46:52 GMT -5
When I got married I was on TK all the time. Then I got married and I didn't go over to the nest, I wasn't message boarding at all.
When I got pregnant with my first I was on WTEWYE (lol that's what to expect when you're expecting) which I found through the book. Then a friend told me about TB and I thought the people there were more normal than the WTE crowd, so I was on there for parenting stuff but still pretty casual.
When I had a miscarriage I got really pretty into TB. Like in a "I need this" kind of way. And then my subsequent pregnancy was high risk and I ended up on hospital bed rest, then DD was in the NICU, and through all that I was checking out all kinds of boards on a daily. I think it was just after DD was born that they migrated.
I remember I was EPing at the time and she was really fragile, and honestly I probably had post partum depression or at least baby blues or maybe just really overwhelmed. I wasn't going to move (even though what TB did was bad, I didn't understand the format here) but then my favorite posters from WM moved and I couldn't live without them so I educated myself.
Being on here got me through to the "other side" of parenting after having DD. I'm in a much better place now and I kind of come here for fun and camaraderie of WMs specifically as well as family and work vents etc. Most of the moms in my hood are SAHMs and it's just different.
I started on a TK local board when planning my wedding, since I was living on the other side of the country and wanted local recommendations. Then when we had trouble getting pregnant, then losses, especially my late loss for medical reasons, TB boards were a big support.
I agree with mommyatty though that the more well-educated/affluent group on this board makes it unique. Finding a community of women who have careers and seem to mostly choose to work, means that everyone's advice is more relevant for me.
Post by helenahhandbasket on May 19, 2017 16:08:12 GMT -5
I was a knottie back in 2006 when I was getting married (the first time). I remembered that TB was a sister site when I got pregnant the first time in 2010. Sadly I miscarried that pregnancy but the pregnancy loss and the TTCAL were huge comforts to me. I think at the time I mostly lurked, and just participated every so often. I didn't really regularly participate until June of 2012 when DD was 6 months old.
Post by billybumbler on May 19, 2017 16:09:11 GMT -5
I started lurking TB while feeding DD in the MOTN and eventually posted in my BMB, N12. I lurked Parenting too and when the exodus happened my BMB moved to FB, but I also made an account here and kind of drifted until I found WP.
Post by frozenpeas on May 19, 2017 16:12:14 GMT -5
I think I stumbled upon the loss boards on TB during my google frenzy after my 1st miscarriage. I never posted, but I read diligently with a box of tissues at my side.
When I was pregnant with DD1 I checked out my BMB. Again, never posted, mostly b/c by the time I was far enough into my pregnancy to breathe easy again, it would have been an awkward time to intro. But I remember reading a fair amount.
After that is a blur. I definitely had found WMs by the time DD2 was born and at some point I started posting, but only occasionally. I'm still not a prolific poster, but I read almost everything you all have to say. This seemed like the most natural place for me--I've been working for a long time & I spend a lot of hours at work, so I have the most chance of giving a little advice here and not just taking it.
It's also nice to be able to start with the assumption that we all are/will be/have been working parents. Even if I don't post that often, not that much backstory is needed when I do because I know we're all coming from that common place.
When I went back to work, I was spiraling on pro working moms articles. The working mom's board at TB popped up in Google. I lurked that and the parenting board and just followed over during the exodus. I finally got up the nerve to start posting on this board.
Post by justcheckingin73 on May 19, 2017 17:03:08 GMT -5
I think I used TK as a resource when I was getting married in 2002 but I never joined the message boards. Then, after I had my dd in 2004, I joined what I think was called The Nest at the time but I don't remember what boards I followed. I mostly lurked, posted here and there if I felt strongly about a topic and didn't join a bmb until I had my son in 2010. I posted more on working moms after he was born and then when everyone left I followed. I never enjoyed the Parenting board on TB, except for entertainment purposes. For the most part, many of the posters seemed immature and always ready to fight. I like the Parenting board here but there are so many posts with so many replies, it's too hard to keep up.
I agree that that the working parents board has a lot of highly educated moms and that is definitely what keeps me here. I feel I get a well rounded view of topics from all ages and career levels. I don't get the same feeling from the Scary Mommy board in the few times I've been there.
When I got a positive pregnancy test I freaked out and scoured the internet for stories of false positives. I was frantic and in major denial. No joke.
That brought me to TB and then I found out about BMBs and hopped on that train for a long time. Then the multiples board saved me with advice and tips and I found WP. My BMB got me through a high risk twin pregnancy and how to deal with babies, it was really supportive.
I followed my BMB to FB and was happy there for years, until drama went down and I needed to back out for my own sanity. Since WP was always around in the background I just stuck around there and followed the migration here.
my sister was big into the bump and is super tight with her BMB (has flown to other cities to meet them, etc.) so she recommended it to me. I never really got in a groove with my own BMB. I found the IF boards a little too late and never really bonded over there.
I started lurking WP when I went back to work after mat leave. You guys are pretty level headed with very low drama, so I appreciated that.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 19, 2017 18:19:35 GMT -5
I mostly lurked on the knot during wedding planning. Moved over to TN and posted a little bit on a married life board. I got to the point where I really wanted a baby and started lurking in TB. I mostly lurked the WM board so I could read what life would be like. I didn't really start posting anywhere until DS's bmb. We don't even have a board here.
I like hanging with you guys because it's a pace posting wise and you guys teach me so much! If I need advice for something, parenting and otherwise, this is the first place I think of.
I research everything and that is what led me to TD. I was a lurker on the BMB for my first pregnancy then became active on the BMB for my second. I migrated over to TCF during that pregnancy. When TCF created a bunch of boards I tried several different ones out to see which sticked. I started out at WP as a lurker. It seemed like such an established group and I didn't get some of the acronyms that are unique to this board at first, but im glad i jumped in. Now that my BMB has started to die down this place has started to feel more like my home board.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 19, 2017 19:51:18 GMT -5
I joined TB when I found out I was pregnant. That pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and I found tremendous support on the loss boards. I ended up having another miscarriage and really really needed the loss boards. Those women saved me from a really dark place, offered me advice and support, and held my hand during months of testing. When I found out I was pregnant with J, I freaked and again those women helped me.
I've had two more losses and another rainbow since then. I have no idea how I would have survived without them. We migrated over together and I'm still very active on the loss boards here.
I found WP when I needed some advice, and you gals rock! I love it here
Also, any ladies who have experienced loss and want to join PAL, please do! We need more posters and would love for you to join us.
Post by librarychica on May 19, 2017 20:01:40 GMT -5
Way back in college the receptionist at the campus office I worked for was a big Knot/Bump member. She ended up introducing me to H and when I married him years later I remembered the Knot.
I was never involved in the forums but joined a BMB on TB when I got pregnant with DD1. Shortly after, H and I were fighting over how our careers would mesh (this is my nice way of saying he thought it best that he make no sacrifices and I sacrifice my job) and I stumbled over to Working Moms for advice, some of y'all called H and asshole and some gave good advice and some did both. So I stayed. H and I obviously worked it out, I kept working and since I didn't have any working mom friends IRL at the time and I needed a place where I didn't feel like an alien. The rest is history and here we are.
Post by judyblume14 on May 19, 2017 20:38:06 GMT -5
I lurked TTGP on TB when we first started TTC in 2013. I joined my BMB when we finally got pregnant, but the group was so big I felt lost. I didn't follow them to Facebook. I also posted quite a bit in Health & Exercise (I think that's what it was called).
I don't think I ever posted in Working Moms on TB but came out of lurking when we came over here.
A very small group of mostly new posters became active in DD1s BMB here. There's about 12 of us and most just lurked on TB . They've become my home over the past two years. And you fabulous ladies are my home away from home!
I joined the knot when I was wedding planning and I had friends on Facebook using the bump count down for pregnancy. So I joined the bump as soon as I found out. Took me months to find the forums. Actually landed on blended families first. Only lurking though. Then migrated here and decided to jump in here blended families and my BMB. My BMB is weird though. Never really belonged there. Blended families died and here is home.
I joined TB when I got pregnant with DD (in 2011. sheesh) because I had no IRL friends who were pregnant or had babies. That became my place to learn, calm fears, and vent. I had a fabulous BMB. Some posters who are still active over here on other boards were on my BMB, and it's so cool to think we've "known" each other's lives so long.
I joined WP on TB when I was going back to work and freaking out. It was such a help to know that there were women out there working full-time not-flexible schedules, putting their kids in daycare centers (instead of hiring a nanny), and enjoying their careers. Really helped me feel like not such an alien.
Post by indyrowergirl on May 20, 2017 12:25:24 GMT -5
Started on TK to plan my wedding in 2004, then to TN where I played on the Decorating & Renovating board. Moved to TB in 2008 when TTC DS1 (was on the after 35 boards there). Then WP after kids were born, and herewith the great migration.
Hard to believe I've been on the boards for that long. But I find this group invaluable in understanding where I'm coming from as a WP who's happy to be working.
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