Post by scorpioscuba on May 20, 2017 16:28:10 GMT -5
I just want to stay with all of you. I don't really care all that much where that is. I'm not sure SM is the best option because we'd just get our own thread (not a board) and we like to throw some topical threads out there along with our weekly randoms. So...where should we go?
For those on Tapa these are the options:
-PB Birth Month Boards forum -Our own J16 forum -Stay here -SM -Something else?
Well scratch SM from the list. They shut it down. LO fucking L. What a shitstorm.
I can't believe all this craziness.
But yeah, I'm think a hard no to SM even if it's a fluke that it's down. It sounds like more drama about to happen, and we can't be shuffling around looking for a new place constantly like some lost mommy board refugees.
Oh and there is sterling politics (now everything) board. The larger consensus for those not tracking this incessantly is that congregation will happen at those two places and a plan will emerge for future options. So I think for now (unless you guys want to make a call at this moment we can hang tight and see what options arise once everyone takes a breath.
Post by NellieOleson on May 22, 2017 9:35:54 GMT -5
I'm having conflicting feelings about how this whole situation went down.
I mean, sure, what Naria did was shitty, but does it really reach the PATHOLOGICAL LIAR!!!! WE'VE ALL BEEN CATFISHED!!!! level of hysteria that has overtaken TCF?
From what little I've seen, I've always gotten an AW vibe from her. The type that always is the victim and thrives on the attention she gets from it. I've known people like that before and they always tend to exaggerate their claims against other people, blame their failings on anyone and everyone else, and lie when they need to. So I can't really say I'm surprised. (As an aside, it sounds like I'm describing our GD president! Is Naria actually Trump?? Now THAT would be some hardcore catfishing.)
For all the posters acting so shocked.... I have a hard time believing they didn't see signs of this before, and why were they putting so much trust into someone who clearly hadn't earned it? To extend my Trump analogy- it reminds me of interviews I've seen of Trump voters who are suddenly shocked that they might lose their health coverage. It's like WHAT??? What the hell did you think you were getting?
But I digress.
I'm fine with moving, because I want to continue chatting with you lovelies. I'm willing to go wherever. I think it makes the most sense to follow the herd wherever it lands because we have a few people who post regularly here and on Parenting or other boards, and I'm afraid we would lose them if we forged out on our own. Maybe not out of lack of wanting to to stay in touch, but just out of the realities of separate sites/log ins being just enough of a hassle.
However, I don't think the new place is going to be safe from mod or admin drama, I don't think some new GBCTCF proboards is going to bring in a ton of new traffic. So it seems like it will be same shit, different day until everyone has a collective freak out about some bullshit and this whole thing repeats again.
I think what Naria did was super shitty, but I also think the way everyone has reacted has been pretty shitty, too.
But whatever. I've got my bags packed and I'm ready to go.
I vote to stay here. It sounds like Naria lied about her reasons for de-modding someone. That's not reason enough for me to leave. It doesn't involve me, and I like our board. Also, I have lied at times in my life so I'm not going lose my shitake over someone else's lie that is utterly unrelated to me.
Post by crimsonandclover on May 22, 2017 12:59:42 GMT -5
I guess I just haven't really had it explained in a way that makes sense. So naria apparently de-modded someone and insulted someone on FB before defriending them? And that has led to a mass exodus? There has to be more to this story, but I don't know any more than that. I'll go where you all go if you go. And I'll stay if you stay.
Post by scorpioscuba on May 22, 2017 15:21:06 GMT -5
So from what I gather it started out as some asking for updates on the state of the website. Apparently at the beginning, after TB exodus, the grand plan was a website/blog to drive traffic here with TTC/IF resources, etc. money was donated and then in the past 2.5 years nothing has happened. And no real answers as to why. So it seems there has been some discontent for awhile. Then it came out in all this that she basically drove away a big portion of the IF/Loss community and those boards were dying. Then the demodding issue came to light which has a whole other very odd backstory. People also complained that many gave her lots of support in many ways (a gofundme for IVF, embryo donation) and she never even really acknowledges the support or gives it to others in return.
That's all 2nd hand from what I've read of course. But I'll be honest and say that some of the things I've read I'd rather find another place to go and keep us together. I think this place will be a virtual ghost town soon. I also like to check out other boards on occasion and would rather not log in multiple places but that's just secondary really.
scorpioscuba - do you know how she "drove away" the IF people? I keep reading comments like that, but I'm not sure what exactly happened.
Also, it sounds like the person who got demodded has her own issues, too.
Blah. I hate all this stuff. I don't even really care - I just feel like I should understand since it affects us so much, too.
I'm beginning to feel like it's mostly a case of people just loving to be outraged over something. All the drama excites them.
So maybe it was just the demodding situation that cause them to leave and take up residence on FB instead?? I tried going back to the SOTF thread to figure it out but so many members have deleted their content I couldn't piece it together.
I am not inclined to follow the Parenting regulars. This all started because they were upset that the forums aren't growing. But I saw several times when a newbie would post in Parenting, and then get flamed for following some unspoken rule or code of conduct, or not having a 100% fact-checked perfect timeline to their story. They were told to "hang out for a while and get the feel for the board."
Even if the forum brought in more newbies, why would they stay to get flamed?
Why would I follow a group of such snarky, clique-ish people across the internet?
If it turns into an echo chamber here, there is a small Jan. 2016 group on The Bump that maybe we could join. We could ask if they would have us. That's just a thought. But I'm inclined to stay here and see if we can't make this a more welcoming community going forward.
I'm not inclined to stick around here but want to be with you girls. While I don't understand all the undertones of some of the long time regulars issues with admin and I agree that some of the parents posters are... a lot, some of them I have known for many years and respect as kind and good people and I'm inclined to take seriously when they call foul on something. Anyway Tapatalk makes it easy to post in two places so if that's what I'm gotta do that's what I'll do.
Post by silverspoon on May 23, 2017 11:45:24 GMT -5
I'm hoping they will find a permanent landing spot and maybe we can move there. Maybe? We'll see how it shakes down.
I'm not saying we blindly follow Parenting around. I just am inclined to agree that there are some serious issues with this site. I don't have the long history they do with her. Of course, I do like posting on Parenting so maybe I'm biased. I dipped my toe in incredibly slowly because of things like you were saying 14joa31.
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